juz a thot of myself... --> no gf

smurfer SG

Hi all,

I'm turning 25 this year and still dun hav even 1 gf b4... i tell my frens but no 1 blieve me at all... they all say i bluffing...

recently, juz know a guy (i'm not gay lar).. he ask me got gf or not and i say no... he dun blieve also... all my frens say my looks okay mah and shld hav 1 b4 but dun know y also... got chase after gals b4 but they dun wan me... 1 of them say i no security, 1 say i not her type and...blah blah..

Y har? i juz cant get myself a simple (no need chio or pretty) and understanding gf har?... Embarassed Crying or Very sad

life^stop SG

..i share your thoughts... Crying or Very sad really doesn't feel good one bit

the Bear SG

until 2 1/2 years ago, i never had a gf... never wanted one too.. have to say my 1st and i was over 30...

friends never found it strange that i never had a gf.. i guess i was a strange one... just as happy being by himself as with close friends...

probably you have not found her because she's also not found you... not yet... sometimes these things are fated.. and it's not time yet?

myself, i was over 30! and when i fell, it was hard and forever...

take heart... if there's someone out there for you, you'll find her.. nevermind what others say.. if you give in to pressure or because you want to "belong" or conform, it's not fair to yourself and your partner...

smurfer SG

ya... i understand... i juz saw ur thread posting in a gal who dun hack care u rite...

well, sad to say, i did experience this b4 also, dunno y she not chio, pretty... yet so 'dao'..

I learnt to know how to give up, relax, and let it go... man, u can do it... i blieve u can!!!

NO GF is really bored smetimes... i AGREE.. but liking sme1 who doesnt even bother abt u is really toughZ....SO let it GO... Evil or Very Mad

star princess SG

ermm... BO?

smurfer SG

sighz… dunno leh… now i juz graduated and unable to find job in this market… nevermind, i know its tough to find job but i kept on trying and trying… and blieve i can find my job smeday.. but as for gf, i dun know also… how??? my social circle is small and not much frens and if hav, they already attached liao… sighz…

smurfer SG

??? dun understand... Shocked

Xiao Long Nu SG

y so urgnet find gf? aiyo....everyting is fated 1..mayb ur fated 1 haven appear..canot rush 1..the more u find the more u canot find..the more u dn find ..the more u can find....u noe wat i tokin?? guys no gf nvm..
.mus b Siao Sha........cool ............n steady...lor.. Razz

smurfer SG

ya ya... i already veli "cool" liao.. "cool" everynite telling myself to buck up and go orchard rd and approach gals... mayb wear a tshirt telling ppl i got no gf can approach me...
Crying or Very sad

Xiao Long Nu SG

Originally posted by smurfer:
ya... i understand... i juz saw ur thread posting in a gal who dun hack care u rite...

well, sad to say, i did experience this b4 also, dunno y she not chio, pretty... yet so 'dao'..

....i need to tell u one ting...tat is....a girl nt chio doest mean she canot reject guys....and she is not dao.....she reject better than Playing with tat guy rite..or some even cheat money worst still....anyway i tink all these aso mus see feelings leh..if the girl no feelings on u.....wat u did aso no use 1...dn tell me ugly girls mus accept all guys who chase after them and oni chio girls can REJECT?....chio TaI sai meh...........dn waste time better...tink everyone is given a choice ...decision final is theirs...

I learnt to know how to give up, relax, and let it go... man, u can do it... i blieve u can!!!

yah u know then gd lor....some guys reach certain age no gf....v desperate 1.....hope u haven reach tat stage yet.. Laughing

NO GF is really bored smetimes... i AGREE.. but liking sme1 who doesnt even bother abt u is really toughZ....SO let it GO...

WOw lau...y no gf bored? u stil gt ur family mah....in life so many tings to do....nt oni bgRelationshi[p... tink on the bright side............go do volunteer woork...!.... liking someone who doesnt bother abt u? mayb can be frens lor...dn be super glue lidat ....girls will b frighten off....i tink admire is a fun ting to do! hahaa cos u will nv gt rejected..... Laughing

Xiao Long Nu SG

[quote]Originally posted by smurfer:

ya ya... i already veli "cool" liao.. "cool" everynite telling myself to buck up and go orchard rd and approach gals... mayb wear a tshirt telling ppl i got no gf can approach me...
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cool ?? haha then go join some social activities...like volunteer work..or go join community centre ..there gt many activite..s..or join their courses there...go learn dancing or watever....u can get toknow more ppl...

smurfer SG

been trying to join also.. but no job at the moments so no $$ also... how to join exp activities... SG all wan $$....

can i know gers in here? Embarassed

NeonTetra SG

be more proactive and maybe improve ur image??

C-100 SG

Well Smurfer,

Having a gf does not mean anything.... Would u rather fall in love wif a WRONG gal so deeply, den realize that she's not THE RIGHT ONE afterall...??

Being a gal myself, I'd not. If given a choice, I'd choose to know the guy better, before making him my bf. This is from past experiences.

I won't deny that it is lonely not having a bf, but it still beats falling out of love and losing e direction of life....

/pats smurfer on e back..
ur turn will come. Be patient, and dun 'fall' in love for e wrong reasons... Wink

smurfer SG

thnkz c-100... but really, bored at times make me unhappy and depressed... Evil or Very Mad

windjammer SG

better be the owner of the lonely heart than owner of a broken heart... Mr. Green

C-100 SG

try taking some hobbies..? Wink

C-100 SG

agreed! Cool

Yunhaier SG

Your karmic relationship and fate isn't there yet. Like what bear has said in his post - you also may have to wait for your own turn. Rolling Eyes

HOWEVER, everything revolves around Free Will. If you don't attempt, you will never succeed. I am not saying that you should go down the street and approach every girl - let me tell you: That never works and you will never find a gf in this way.

So what must you do?

First and foremost: enlarge social circle. When you meet more people, both guys and girls, you will see and understand different kind of characteristic that you can compare, fancy or dislike. Try to understand what you wish to find in a girl, rather than zero requirements. When I say understand about yourself and your requirements - I mean REAL understanding. CloUdiSm Quote: Probably all these may take place after your first gf has passed your life. Rolling Eyes

Btw: Don't have gf before don't have gf lar. What's the big deal about it. Please lor, no gf doesn't mean that you are undesirable in certain ways. Come for outing bah and get to know more people. Fate and cupid will eventually find you. Wink

Cheers

the Bear SG

being bored is not a good reason to go find a girl and try to make her yours...

respect your own feelings and emotions more... and others' too..

if it does not work out, it's going to hurt, sadden and depress you hell of a lot more than what you're feeling now... trust me.. i know...

and your reasons to find that someone, say that it'll not work...